Motivational – SALONI'S PEN

IT IS DARK IN HERE

Nobody seems to understand what’s inside our minds. It’s taboo, but let’s break the pattern. As an individual who has experienced it and comes out of it alive. I have seen goodies turning the world the wrong way up. Trust me, depression isn’t a game. And it isn’t a choice.

STOP PRETENDING, YOU CAN’T KEEP IGNORING. YOU NEED TO STOP HIDING.

When the barricades of anxiety and pressure tears you down, the pain is severe and awful and affects so many people in so many distinct ways. Depression doesn’t just vanish, you don’t suddenly wake up and choose not to feel miserable and hopeless.

Having anxiety and depression is like being scared and tired at the same time. It is fear of failure but no urge to be productive. It’s like wanting friends, but hate socializing. It’s wanting to be alone, but not liking to be lonely. It’s caring about everything and then caring about nothing. It’s feeling everything at once and feeling paralyzingly numb.

Depression has long been surrounded by a robust stigma. Myths like, “depression is a sign of weakness” and “feeling sad isn’t manly” are often exhausting thoughts that prevent an individual from seeking help. We are taught that depression is where a person goes crazy inside the mind. That depression is a form of mental illness. This is so true while on the other hand, we are also taught to see people differently who suffer from mental illness (even ourselves). I ask, why?

The idea of seeing a therapist appears like a defeat, instead of normal. Because only “crazy” people go to a therapist, right? WRONG!

You Cannot ‘Snap Out’ Of Depression.

It’s okay to whimper. It’s okay to be vulnerable. You are not bulletproof, you are mortal. You are a human being. You cannot be guarded 24/7. You’re capable of getting hurt. Feel the emptiness. Figure it out. Languish over. Cry your heart out. Stop pretending. Reveal yourself. Stop hiding. Breakdown if you’re drained. Just break. And Stop ignoring. It’s okay.

To read more about it click here.

We often tend to overlook our psychological state and instead focus on maintaining proper physic and curing physical sickness. What we forget in the process is that we are humans and being the same is what is gonna keep us all alive to the very end of life.

But, the good news is that mental health stigma is slowly starting to change in society. More people are beginning to realize what impression mental health has on each and every person.

I think it’s time, for the world to act like humans and not like a machine that has zero emotions. It’s the need of the hour (has been for the longest time) to speak about mental wellbeing and de-stigmatize it. Start by making your surroundings worthy and comfortable for people trying to reach out for help. Let us all start with our homes, family, and friends. Let us start by being kind, gentle, and accepting for however worse the circumstance is or might get. Be supportive.

A NOTE TO WHOMEVER IT MAY CONCERN:

Hey, it’s absolutely okay to get lost in the solitude you’ve been battling inside. You’re hurt. ADMIT IT. Let the curve in your face be sadness instead of a smile. Let it all out. It’s fine. Be miserable. You’re not unattended.

I’m writing honestly about this to let anyone who reads this understand that they’re not alone if they’re also going through this. It comes in waves, and I know it’s not a marvelous feeling, but it’s important to infer that it’s not permanent. It may seem like it’ll and as of right now, it seems like it’s been weeks when it’s really only been days. Just remember, you’re NOT alone. Regardless of what anyone says, there’s nothing vicious with you and you’ll pull through this. Get some motivation here.

Now, it may not be overnight. It may take a couple of days or months. But that’s why Hope is usually so essential. Hope in knowing that through our belief in God we can press on and keep moving.

Hope in knowing that through the renewing of our psyche that the fences won’t press in and crush us.

Start to be grateful in life instead of grieving for what you do not have yet.

A GENUINE CONCLUSION:

Let’s not be judgmental.

Be kind to everyone you meet. Sometimes a hug is worth more than quite a thousand words. Hope for a far better tomorrow.

Let’s be humans again!

ESSENCE OF LIFE

Need some motivation?

Then this post is for you!

Positive words are the key to gaining clarity. Which makes it important to rebalance your life. I’m not a perfectionist, in reality, no one is. It’s my development philosophy – a key to gaining clarity.

Quick Tip: Quality of life depends a lot on your quality of thinking! Mind it…

Below are some of my favorite life-changing quotes, meant to give you a valuable message, inspiration, and encourage you to take action and start right away!

I hope you like them!

1. A Beautiful Day Begins With A Beautiful Mindset

Trust me, this is the most important one-liner for the kick-ass beginning of the day which is why it’s first on the list.

I didn’t realize it until a few months ago when there were life crises and the whole pandemic lockdown situation just made it all worse. Know more about what I did in lockdown click here.

It’s not late. Set up a morning routine that empowers you, supports you, and fortifies you.

2. Turn The Pain Into Power

As a highly sensitive person, this is a quote that helps me make my mind up and go for things. This is how I started Blogging in the first place. It can be anything you’ve been waiting for like hit the gym, start that morning yoga session, or start that YouTube channel. I mean why not?

It pretty much works out for everybody. So, just go for it! Believe in yourself and you’ll be powerful

3. Be A Warrior Not A Worrier

I think you can use this for multiple reasons, whether you are trying to lose weight, struggling with life crises, get a dream job, etc.

A quote to stick by for the rest of your life. Isn’t it?

4. Train Your Mind To See Good In Every Situation

I know it’s hard to remain focused and positive in every situation. You’ve to got to train your mind to be stronger than your emotions or else you’ll lose yourself every time.

React to the world in real-time.

5. Interrupt Anxiety With Gratitude

Does your brain feel hijacked with stress and anxiety? Mine does, a lot of time.

Anxiety triggers your flight or fight mode. (Fight in my case)

IMPORTANT REMINDER 🔔

FOR WHAT IT’S WORTH: IT’S NEVER TO LATE TO BE WHOEVER YOU WANT TO BE. I HOPE YOU LIVE A LIFE YOU’RE PROUD OF, AND IF YOU FIND THAT YOU’RE NOT, I HOPE YOU HAVE THE STRENGTH TO START OVER.

WISE WORDS BY F. SCOTT FITZGERALD

6. Expect Nothing, Accept Everything

Acceptance is the key to all of my problems today. I’m still a newbie to this concept but I have come too far to look back on this journey.

Sometimes, we expect too much from others because we would be willing to do that much for them. But what if you start to expect less initially? We learn to expect nothing from anybody but ourselves one day. That’s how expectations won’t dare to haunt anymore!

7. No One Is You And That’s Your Power

This is for real.

I’m quite a self-driven person, and I’d rather push myself than have someone else shouting at me to do it. Learn how to become a priority in your life click here.

8. If You Want It Work For It

Set your goals, stop hitting the snooze button on your life. Because darling! Nothing comes easy and you were not born with a silver spoon in the mouth either. The time is now.

Conquer your world. It has been waiting for you!

9. Excellence Matters Not Perfection

When we live with kindness, integrity, and truth, we are practicing excellence. You don’t have to be perfect. Just do your best!

10. Just Keep Swimming

Dory may not be able to recall what she said, but the tiny blue wandering friend from “Finding Nemo” was inevitably full of wisdom. In the end, Dory’s best advice is probably her most classic.

Conclusion

Thank you for reading some of my favorites life-changing quotes. Use them to stay motivated. They hold within them one of the greatest keys to survival which is the flow of positive energy.

Before I wrap up, I would like to share with you the famous phrase from Shri Bhagwat Gita. It says YOU ARE WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN.

So, just hang in wherever you are in life right now. Keep in mind the things that inspire you and remember your purpose.

STAY CALM!

Until next time!!

LITTLE REMINDER

It is tough to protest when life tosses you a curveball and you have no other choice but to let it go past you. You might want to take control over the crisis, no matter how hard or how many times you try, life just doesn’t add up the way you want it to. Things tend to fall in the wrong place. It becomes harder with every passing day to deal with the shit going on for the longest time. The chaotic state of mind and pissed-off chunks of your heart makes you anxious and nervous.

Sometimes, you get through and other times it completely consumes you.

Pain is the most realistic part of everyone’s life, but that doesn’t mean it’s an essential part of life. The pain and the endless agony, it’s going to hurt. There is no denying that.

PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS

Hey listen, life will test you. But you gotta be strong. People close to you are going to hurt you, break you, and smash your heart into pieces. Your courage will be judged. Because when the suffering comes via loved ones, it costs too much. It costs you time and energy. It costs your mental health and sanity. It costs you all the emotions you have invested in the person.

At some point, you will consider what is indispensable to you. The connection or your well-being.

Try paying attention to whom your energy boosts and drops around because that’s the universe giving you a hint of whom you should be with. It is very disheartening and hard to choose yourself over any relationship (coz that’s what we’re taught from the very beginning, to stick with it and ignore the wronged). But you should know that you are brave enough to get over it and that you don’t gain without some loss. That all things come in two including pain and joy. When you realize that self-care retains more power than any of the XYZs, you are going to realize what is self-love. The first step to self-care is giving a shit about yourself.

Soon you’ll make peace with yourself for the first time in the longest time. You can search throughout the entire universe for someone more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.

DUNGEON AND ESCAPE

Some days, you’ll find yourself tamed in a shady, and gross place, a whimsical dungeon surrounded by dire predictions and shunned feelings. These feelings will victimize you, and torment you. Probably make you think like you don’t have any kind of access to the outer world. You will be too damaged to maybe fix yourself even if you got a chance.

DON’T GIVE UP. LOOK FOR REDEMPTION.

Deep down you know you want to escape from the insecurities that are holding you back, somehow you are too drained to notice that there is always a way out of hell. Especially when the mastermind is you.

Our feelings are very complicated, but they exist for a reason.

Like magic, life also has loopholes. There’s always a catch behind every freaking happening on this planet. You just have to be more vigilant, when you need one. The high walls of your insecurity and outlook towards life are what are keeping you to escape the dark side of yours. Let go of them. They are not worthy of you.

Learn to fly free. Don’t be afraid to let go. Once you find the tool to dismantle the high walls, there will be a ray of joy to start all over again. You’re meant to heal what hurts you, you’re not supposed to live in misery forever.

You can always start again. No matter how bad you feel, how hard you have hit rock bottom again, or how little energy and will you have left to keep holding on, deep down you know that recovery is possible.

Trust me, you’ll shine like a crystal on a flower.

LIFE AND CONSPIRACY

What I’m trying to say is life doesn’t work the way you plan it to be. Life hasn’t been the way I expected it to be. It is disappointing. I agree. Well, here is what I discovered over the past few years about life and since then I have been aiming to get a more accurate slant to it.

Life is what it is – cruel, tough, and impossible sometimes. Whether you like it or not, the truth is never going to change. But to my surprise, what you can change is your attitude towards life by investing in yourself.

Over the years, I have learned to let go of what I can’t control, such as relationships, jobs, college, etc. That’s not to say that it gets any easier as time goes on, but God did equip me with the tools that I need in that season. Some seasons, I can get through the storm without hesitation, and other seasons, such as the one I’m currently in, I find it hard to get through a single day.

I’m learning to make peace with life and so can you.

You Need And Deserve Love During All Time.

In the end, always know ‘Life is Intriguing and Challenging’.

You are so strong and capable and you can do this. Please do not be so hard on yourself; you have not blown up, you have not failed – you are given the chance to start over and recreate yourself and I know that you will get through this.

P.S.: You have made it out of gray places more times than you could ever imagine, so what makes you think that this time is different?

GIRL, YOU SHOULD READ THIS

Hey there girl,

When you feel like the world is crashing down all around you, please don’t give up. Don’t give in. Don’t shut down. I know you want to because that’s what every fiber of your being is telling you to do. That’s what seems natural to you right now. But, gorgeous girl, the world needs you. It needs your heart. It needs your personality. It needs your smile. It needs your softness. It needs your laughter. It needs your energy.

Whatever sadness is flooding your soul right this moment is only temporary. It may be deep and painful and all-consuming, but know that it will not last forever. There will come a time when you won’t be fighting back tears when you won’t feel like you’re just floating through a cloudy dream when you won’t feel like you’re in too deep to ever experience overflowing joy and excitement and love again.

I can’t promise you what the path to healing looks like, but I can promise you that there is one. And this heavy mess you’re in right now is just a stopping point on the beautiful path that’s paved especially for you.

There are days filled with passion and purpose for life, flourishing relationships, innate happiness, limitless opportunities, and lots of light but, my sweet girl, you need to keep fighting to get there. You need to know the value and worth you bring to this world and have hope that this hardship you’re struggling with will in time loosen the tight grip it has on your heart.

And until that moment comes, be gentle with yourself. Show yourself the grace and kindness and compassion that you’ve deserved all along. Allow your soul to rest. Accept help from outstretched hands. Be proud of every step forward you take, no matter how big or small it is. And know that there are people in this world who care about you and want to see you conquer this battle you’re fighting. You are loved, gorgeous, and oh so strong.

P.s.- The girl who is hurting is hurting no more.

IT’S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY

Dear Strong Men & Women,

I see the pain in your smile. Hey! it’s okay if you are sad today. It’s okay if you feel your heart breaking one more time. It’s okay if you’re feeling lonely today. It’s okay if you feel like crying. It’s okay to side down the wall when it’s 3’o clock and wonder where’s life going? It’s okay to burry head in a book and let tears stream down your face. It’s okay to pray, get rid of your problems.

It’s okay to bury your face in the pillow. It’s okay if the pictures of the past make you want to be with the same person again. It’s okay to feel so. It’s okay if you can’t find happiness for a moment. It’s okay if you can’t laugh with a happy heart. It’s okay if something is holding you back. It’s okay to give a break to yourself. It’s okay to not be okay.

It’s okay if you didn’t wake up with a smile today or you remember the last night and kinda feel guilty. It’s okay if you haven’t planned anything for the day yet and you are empty head today. It’s okay if the things you planned, didn’t go well. It’s okay if you are late to work. It’s okay if you are going crazy about certain things. It’s okay if you aren’t looking focused. It’s okay if the negative vibe is slipping down to you.

It’s okay if you can’t find a ray of hope today. It’s okay to be in dark. It’s okay if you find yourself in the middle of nowhere. It’s okay if you fail today. And it’s okay if you are not what you thought today.

It’s okay if the other’s can’t see the actual you. It’s okay if they didn’t realize that you aren’t okay. It’s okay if you are fighting with yourself. It’s okay if like other days, people want you to be more understanding. It’s okay if you are not on their consideration list. It’s okay if people treat you differently today. It’s okay if you fail to flip the good side of you. It’s okay if you are angry today. It’s okay if you feel the urge to shout today. It’s okay if you want to spend your day doing absolutely nothing. It’s okay if you want to be noisy and messy. It’s okay if you want to be YOU again.

It’s okay sunshine, breathe and hold on to that, it’ll pass. It has to. Just breathe and breathe and remind yourself of all the times in the past that you’ve felt this scared. All the times you’ve felt this anxious and overwhelmed. All the time you’ve felt this level of pain. And remind yourself of how each time you made it through.

Life has thrown so much on you and will keep doing that to eternity. But remember, Nothing is forever here. Eventually, like bad times woops away, so does the happy times.

Therefore, breathe and trust that you can survive this too. Trust this struggling part of the process. It’ll bring the best out of you. And trust that as long as you don’t give up and keep pushing forward, no matter how hopeless things seem… you’ll make it. This is what brings us to the circle of life. Get along with it and you’ll see, you are enough capable to overcome the worst.

So, it’s okay if you decide to treat yourself with the real you. We should all be allowed to fall apart sometimes so that we can find ourselves all over again. Remember that there are always going to be moments where you don’t feel okay. And these moments are important. They help you to grow into the person you were always meant to become.

And when they ask you If you’re okay, it’s okay for the answer to be ‘NO.’

Category: Motivational